The Empath Mum
As anyone who's an Empath knows, it's not always easy. Nor is being a parent; but when you combine the two, it can be mayhem! Of course, being both a Mum and an Empath has its rewards too.
For anyone who isn't familiar with the term Empath, here is a brief description (you may just find yourself reading this and having an 'aha' moment).
An Empath is someone who feels and takes on the emotions and energy of other people, situations and environments. This is not just empathy, but fully feeling these emotions and energy as if they were your very own. Empaths also have a 'knowing' that goes beyond gut feelings or intuition.
So, you can probably imagine that in addition to the everyday challenges that being a parent entails, adding this gift to the mix certainly makes for an interesting experience day in, day out.
Don't get me wrong; being an Empath as a mother gives me some wonderful advantages. Having this 'knowing' means that I'm able to relate to my children on such a unique level, and the majority of the time, I needn't even ask what's wrong because I just 'know'. Even if there's not necessarily anything amiss with one of my children, I still know exactly what they need at any given time; whether it means they're getting sick or just need to snuggle for a while.
For example, when my two year old son wasn't quite verbal yet, he could simply look at me and most of the time, I knew exactly what he needed or wanted without trying to figure it out by questioning him. Sometimes, I was even onto it before he was!
The difficult side to this gift is being able to feel my children's emotions as my own when it becomes overwhelming for me. As everyone does, we all have challenges in life to deal with, and emotions of our own to understand and process, but when you add three more little people's emotions to this, it can become quite daunting and make you feel like you're carrying around the weight of the world. For example, if my teenager is feeling all hormonal and confused about his world, I feel it too. If my baby girl feels genuinely heartbroken because Dad just left to go to work, I feel it too. You get the gist...
At times, I've felt like just curling up in a ball and crying, and that's okay, because it is a very overwhelming gift to have. But at the same time, I am extremely blessed to be able to share this wonderfully deep connection with my children. Once I was aware of what it means to be an Empath, and learnt more about it, things started to become much easier, and I now see this gift in a whole new light.
There are likely many, many parents out there who can completely relate to what I'm describing, and I want you to know that you're not alone; and you're certainly not crazy (even though at times, it may feel that way)! Being an Empath can be challenging and painful at the best of times, but when you're a parent as well, and don't know how to manage this gift, your heart and mind can get quite messy indeed.
But, once you have the awareness, and the tools to properly manage everything that being an Empath entails, you will quickly realise just how very special a gift it is, and why you've been blessed with it. It's not always easy, but the rewards that come with this gift far outweigh the challenges.
I am more than happy to connect with anyone who would like to chat about this further, or who would simply like to share their experiences of being an Empath parent. I can be contacted through either of my Facebook pages below. Stay tuned for a new book coming out soon that I'm publishing, "Journey of an Empath", which includes stories of the personal experiences of Empaths from around the globe.