We all know the posts and articles that come out around Christmas time and right after January 1st. You know, the ones that encourage you to start fresh, release old patterns of behaviour, and set new goals for the year that has just begun. We know them well, but in all seriousness, how much effort do we really put into these things after we read them? If you're anything like me, that time of year is crazy busy and while I'm all for self improvement, most of it goes in one ear and out the other during those whirlwind months. Not to mention that I really just want to spend that time enjoying my family, the beautiful weather, and just being.
So, why am I writing this, you may ask? For a couple of reasons, actually.
1. You don't have to wait for the end of the year to decide to live a happier life.
2. I'm asking that you join me in taking action now, so that come Christmas time, we are all feeling empowered and living a life of truth and purpose.
Are you ready?
There are 5 things I want you to do before the end of the year. I won't pretend this is going to be easy, but it will be worth it. Let's make a deadline, shall we? We'll focus on all five exercises over the next ten weeks (one every fortnight) which means if we stick to them, that will bring us to the 26th December. What a way to bring in the new year, hey? I'll be doing them too, so we are in it together. Let's do this! Here's the first one:
1. Zone in and meet yourself
It's not easy, but if we want to do this properly, then it's probably the most important step. You'll need to give yourself some tough love, and not use the excuse of "I don't have time". We all have time; it's just a matter of prioritising it. Are you willing to prioritise your own happiness? Because that's what this is about.
It's time to be selfish for a moment and only think about what you need right now, and the first thing you need is space. No matter what you need to do to get it, find some space. Not just an hour; a good solid block of time where you're completely alone. If you can have a night away by yourself, even better. Now, here's the catch (and the hard part). No internet. No phone. Just you and your heart. Sound uncomfortable? I hope so! That's the point.
The purpose of being alone like this is not so you can sleep; nor is it for you to scroll through Facebook to keep your mind occupied. The whole point of this exercise is to be. Be vulnerable, be emotional, be with your own thoughts, be you without distraction. The more uncomfortable this feels, the more powerful it'll be, so let the waves of emotion come naturally.
Now, you need to ask yourself some tough questions, and if you're not going to be brutally honest with yourself, you may as well stop right here. This is some powerful shit, and don't worry - like I said, I'm going to be doing this too, so you're not the only one who'll be feeling it. Feel free to alter these questions as you feel necessary. They are only to be used as a guide, and you may have more that you want to add. And remember, no one is judging you when you answer these, so be raw, be honest, and let it out. Write, talk to yourself, draw... do this however you like, but it must be done.
Who am I?
How am I feeling?
Why am I feeling this way?
Where have these feelings come from?
What am I still holding onto?
What do I really want?
What's in my way?
What does my soul need?
What do I need to do, but am scared to?
As you can see, these are not easy questions, and it's more than likely that in asking them, they'll dredge up some powerful emotions in you. It's vital that you don't block them out, though. Let the emotions come, because this is where we are going to be begin to find clarity, and ultimately, start taking the steps to living a happier and more fulfilling existence. This is just the first exercise of five big, soul-shifting ones. Are you willing to take this ride with me? Let's do the work now, so we can start 2018 as the empowered, authentic, and soul-driven individuals that we were always meant to be.
Stay tuned for updates on the next four exercises, which will shared every fortnight between now and Christmas. I'll be checking in regularly (which will also keep me in line, too). Feel free to email me or contact me on Facebook with your own updates.
Share your progress on social media using the hashtag #bettermeproject and you may just inspire others to join us! Bring it on!